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I"m fairly new to riding after a 25 year hiatus. When I started talking to my wife about getting a bike and all the reasons why I should have one (mostly commuting), she asked " is this a done deal"? I said yes. She said "then buy the effing thing and stop bothering me".
6 years and 130,000 miles later she still asks me "don't you have a ride this weekend". She rode on the back of the bike once for about 15 minutes and decided it's not for her but is totally behind my riding and taking off for a couple of weeks each year to go on a ride. She helps me organize my stuff, buys my road food and makes sure I bring enough warm clothes if the weather is iffy. I think she sees how important riding is to my life.
Sounds suspicious to me.......

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Sounds suspicious to me.......
Wife is a massage therapist and works out of the house. There are naked people, men and women, around every day. If she wanted some fresh meat, she has plenty to chose from.

bike X miles=smiles
smiles ÷ bike=miles
smiles ÷ miles=bike.
It's simple math.

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When my wife said "you weren't even listening to me, were you?", I thought "that's a strange way to start a conversation".

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I'm in the doghouse. I forgot our 27th wedding anniversary and a present for her. Finally, got the wife to talk to me and she demanded, " Snuffy when I get up in the morning there had better be...SOMETHING THAT GOES FROM 0 to 200 IN MY DRIVEWAY"! After some thought, I got the bathroom scale and placed in the driveway.


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We rode when dating. Had a KZ1100 with clip-ons and rear sets, so she had a great view. I sold it just before we started having kids as I wasn't riding it much. Bicycles had closer parking on campus. Got my '05 FJR in October '14 after my youngest graduated from high school, and while my wife was helping our daughter with our first granddaughter. She didn't show any interest in riding again. I got her to ride for 15 minutes around the neighborhood. She told me not to buy her a jacket because she wasn't going to ride. I later offered to switch to a Wing if she'd ride with me. She then explained that she isn't interested in wearing a heavy jacket in the summer while having a hot flash. So I've made my peace, waiting for the hot flashes to fade away.



She also doesn't like being left out/behind. She doesn't feel bad about me helping at charity events without her, so I help at charity bicycle rides - American Diabetes Association Tour de Cure, MS rides, and others. That gets me a day mostly riding. And I get to commute on the FJR. She's also fine with me doing an Iron Butt, so that is another opportunity.



After riding again for a year, I hit a patch of unmarked gravel in an unmarked construction zone while turning. High sided, landing on my head and shoulder. Broke my collarbone and several ribs. Minor concussion. Asked her if she wanted me to stop riding. She said no, as long as I keep my life insurance up.


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Funny how men look for a woman and want her to stay exactly as she is. Most of the women I met were looking for a man they expected to change.
Lots of truth to this statement. Which begs to ask. "Why is it that way?"

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Not being allowed by a spouse just means your spouse thinks they're your parent, you're a child, and you can't decide for yourself. Cant respect either a guy or woman for putting up with that.
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Not being allowed by a spouse just means your spouse thinks they're your parent, you're a child, and you can't decide for yourself. Cant respect either a guy or woman for putting up with that.
The solution is to marry a woman that likes to ride. When you see a bike you like she says buy it and she writes the check. When she sees a bike she likes she writes a check. Before you know it she has more bikes than you do. Spousal Unit... five new BMWs and a Ural in 11 years..... it’s a good hurt.
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Not being allowed by a spouse just means your spouse thinks they're your parent, you're a child, and you can't decide for yourself. Cant respect either a guy or woman for putting up with that.
I had ridden my bike to the supermarket and was putting my helmet in the topcase before going in the store. A lady walks up to me and asked "Are you married?". I replied "Yes". She said "I would not allow my husband to ride a motorcycle." I replied "I am surprised you are married." She walked away pissed.

My wife does not ride or ride with me. She just does not enjoy it. She lets me enjoy my motorcycle and is okay with me doing long distance multi-day rides. I did get a SPOT device so she can track me on her phone. I was riding before I met her, so it was already the status quo.

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I know this is an old thread, recently revived. I read every post … all interesting, many heartwarming, and a few absolutely hilarious. Thanks for sharing!

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